7 Secrets for Front Door Lovin’ Interview Script

7 Secrets for Front Door Lovin’

 

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Hi everybody,

 

Dave:

 

This is Dave Tropeano with relationshipadvice101 and I have on the line with me today James

 

Hess. And, James Hess is from Keep Marriage Alive. And James Hess has a controversial

 

message that he would like to talk to us about today about marriage, and husbands, and

 

specifically Christian husbands.

 

James, how are you doing today?

 

James:

 

“Hi Dave! It is great to be on the phone with you today, and I am so excited to dive into the topic

 

of helping Christian husband’s gain all their wife’s love and devotion, hmm… that they desire by

 

earning it through reliability, loyalty, and being considerate to the needs of their wives.

 

Of course, intimacy and matters of the home affect all husbands, but I have decided to make my

 

work be a focus on the topic of Christian Husbands. So, in this half hour I promise to help you,

 

the loving Christian husband quickly gain her undying devotion and good lovin’ through these 7

 

Secrets that I’m gonna share today.

 

Dave,

 

“Why focus on Christian husbands James? What is it about Christian husbands you think you

 

can touch and reach the most?”

 

James:

 

“Well Dave, being a Christian husband myself… I have put a lot of time into talking “one-onone” with Christian husbands over the past year—when the topic rolls around to our marriages–

 

I bring up the challenges to having a fulfilling marriage. You know, busy work schedules, taking

 

care of the kids, and the issue of respect from our wives.

 

I mean, sometimes it feels like we just can’t do enough to please them—our wives I mean.

 

Which, leads to tension.

 

Focusing on having a happy and fulfilling marriage becomes a serious topic—because there is so

 

much frustration these men, and I suspect my listeners now are feeling.

 

Here’s the thing guys…

 

I really identify with you as a Christian husband, and your struggle for purity of heart. Really,

 

there are sooo many easy outlets to sexual release available in the world. I believe that deep

 

down, you as a Christian husband are willing to change, and that is why I focus on helping you.

 

I think you, the Christian husband has a mandate to change in the Bible that forms what you

 

believe. The Holy Spirit conforms you as a Christian husband in the image of Jesus. I like that.

 

I offer hope for deeper intimacy and fulfillment that they know their marriage deserves—Even

 

when they do not have a lot of time to give in their life.

 

But, we are talking about intimacy here. The internet seems to be the easiest place to take care of

 

sexual needs, than anything else available. I work late at night on the internet and it certainly is a

 

temptation.

 

But, a few years ago I developed what we are going to talk about today, and much more, because

 

really, it was my wife who was the big temptation in my life. I wanted –(clear throat)– intimacy

 

on a daily basis with her, and it would kill me to be turned down.

 

Struggle in that department eventually brought me back into the cycle of porn. Of which, I

 

confessed to her. Long story short, she was angry, and I took the initiative to get involved in

 

http://www.settingcaptivesfree.com/. It is a very good biblical, mentor based system for gaining

 

freedom from addiction. But, in order for me to fix my first problem, lack of intimacy with my

 

wife—I had to develop a habit and skill that the course did not cover.

 

I needed to have a deeper understanding of how to cherish my wife as a gift from God. I took

 

massive action then and still do now. It all took place around the front door after I got home or

 

not. If I did things right at the front door—then we were golden. But, if I failed to do the right

 

stuff at the front door, then we were sunk. So, I cultivated intimacy with her with the time I had

 

available in my busy schedule at the front door each night. AND–Because I took massive action,

 

incredible intimacy was cultivated and has now become a major part of my marriage over the

 

years.

 

What we will talk about was born from that journey I took. It was well worth it! I think if will be

 

for our listeners too.”

 

Dave:

 

“Well, then let’s get started. So, you know I think that all the audience knows that marriage is

 

hard. Marriage is a constant work as partners. And, even for great husbands romance doesn’t

 

just happen every single day, 24 by 7. Tell us a little bit about how husbands can make their wife

 

excited, and excited to see them when they get home, excited to see them everyday, more and

 

more.”

 

James:

 

“Great. This is where most relationships start each day, in the majority of marriages. In the

 

morning time husbands and wives are battling morning brain fog, they have cobwebs and need

 

to wake up with coffee in hand… if they see each other at all. And in many, many households

 

the wife works as well. So a lot of the drive for the romance in a relationship happens when the

 

husband comes home and if things don’t go well during the week than the weekend can be shot

 

as well.

 

That was my experience. Gaining my wife’s affection hit an all time low when I was a busy

 

Asset Manager for a Firm that managed Foreclosed properties… Fix em up so they could be sold

 

again—that kinda stuff. My wife was home all day with our two rowdy 1 year old twins.

 

I was exhausted from working overtime to land that promotion, and she was worn out from

 

chasing two babies all day… At the end of the day we would just collapse. Like I said before…

 

since I wasn’t doing the right things at the front door right when I got home there would be no

 

magic happening in our marriage-Zilch!

 

I would collapse in the bed each night, but really out of pure desperation amidst the sheer

 

exhaustion I was experiencing—I would lie awake each night wishing, hoping and praying that I

 

could just have some intimate quality time with her to make it all feel better. Really, especially

 

when life is hard—sex with my wife could make life seem wonderful for just having the time

 

together—Alone.

 

I think we can all relate to that simple truth and we have all experienced those nights that are

 

filled with frustration and sexual tension that just goes nowhere!

 

It is time to END that frustration1

 

So that is when I finally had enough and started to take a little bit of time each day after work

 

to come up with these 7 secrets that totally transformed my marriage into something that is

 

consistently satisfying for both of us. I’ll share a little bit more about that later…

 

So starting with when you first get home from work and there can be a huge transition from

 

leaving work, which is a totally different environment than your home. You need all the help you

 

can get.

 

“The answer to your question Dave, is Secret #1: Call out to her… And, Win her Heart (I

 

set this up so she’ll respect you the Minute you’re Through The Door). Here’s what you

 

need to do. As soon as you get home, crack open that door and call out for her.

 

Seek her out by calling out her name. That is exactly what I started doing first to change my

 

marriage around.

 

This really works because every woman in different walks of life wants to be pursued by her

 

husband. At first she might not want to come to you when you start doing this. Popping your

 

head through the door And calling out her name. Not necessarily in the manner of Dick Van

 

Dyke or the Honeymooners, from 50 yrs ago, leaping through the door and yelling,”Honey I’m

 

Home.”

 

Really, deep down inside she is waiting and interested in being with you. But, to acquire the

 

skill in this #1 secret you must begin by using a soft and rather quiet call of her name. As you

 

start doing this consistently, in the coming days you can begin to use your normal voice that she

 

comes to expect. But, you kinda have to tread softly in the beginning.

 

Dave:

 

Wow that’s actually really interesting. Now I know a lot of guys from the call. From the

 

voicemail might be listening and saying this sounds great, but how do I do this. Like how do I

 

get from busting it all day at work. I’m exhausted. I’m driving home. My brain’s foggy. Now I

 

just need to open up the door and kinda be peppy. And be this best of the best guy in order to get

 

to her. How do I convince my wife I am really making an effort here. And, I can be trusted and

 

reliable at the end of the day . Do I have to mask my exhaustion from work.

 

James:

 

Well, you don’t have to mask your exhaustion. If you are trying to put on a front and fake

 

everything… you know our wives are smarter than we give them credit for and she’ll know that

 

you are not being real with her… You might get some brownie points for trying at least… over

 

not really trying, but there is a better more natural way to go about this.

 

“I call Secret #2: Squeeze the Trust. Sometimes it doesn’t even have to be in your words, or

 

your pep. You don’t have to be super excited. What really matters is your body language. You

 

might have had the worst day in your career… and if your arms are reaching out for her and you

 

have a posture of being open and wanting to connect with her right away, then she will respond

 

in the same way.

 

You are already talking slowly and quietly to her so this kinda matches with that in the first

 

place… you’re not just bursting through the door and tripping over the autumun like dick Van

 

Dyke. Or, you know whatever… something like that. You can be real subtle and you don’t have

 

to play it up. And that will build trust she can count on. It won’t take long before she will be

 

conditioned by you to meet you at the front door.

 

It all depends on who’s commute is longer, or if she is home with the kids or whatever, then she

 

will be waiting there for you to come home. You have to remember that women are the more

 

social, emotional and relational ones in the marriage.

 

If you are making these genuine gestures in the beginning she is going to meet you with an

 

energy all her own that can really help you. And, just a little bit of doing things relationally

 

with her in the right direction and she will meet you more than half way. So this is a really good

 

way to get her involved as well and it doesn’t take a lot of work or energy – it just takes a lot of

 

openness to embrace so to speak.

 

Dave:

 

Alright. So I think I am starting to get this. Come home after a long day. I open the door I call

 

her name out. We make some eye contact. I give her a hug. Show her my body language that

 

I really care for her. What’s next? Cause, I mean, I can do all this. But, I’m exhausted. I’m

 

exhausted. Do I need to—Do I get some time I guess to destress, loosen up a little bit, or do I

 

need to just keep pouring this on with her.

 

James:

 

Well, with this type of situation in which you do not have a lot of energy, which is most days

 

after work.

 

OK. So you just finished your commute home to your house from work and you need to de-stress

 

a bit.

 

This was the key to my success with my own wife. I had the most stressful non-stop job in that I

 

had ever had… and when I got home I knew I was going to have to step up to the plate and help

 

take care of the twins… and be there for my wife. I was exhausted and didn’t have anything left

 

to give.

 

My friend listening to this the way the economy is these days most companies pile the work on

 

so heavy and expect so much out of us that at the end of the day there is nothing left to give.

 

So, at this point, normally, you loosen your tie. You unbutton your shirt. You run your hands

 

through your hair and you take a deep breath in and then out. That kinda stuff. Most guys do this

 

the second they get in their car after work in the first place. And, that’s a very good thing. I know

 

I did.

 

I started taking a little bit of extra time to distress just a little bit and have a little bit of me time

 

before driving up to the drive way. That is what I am promoting here. I recommend that you as

 

the husband need to take a little bit of time for yourself to relax and stretch. I’m not talking about

 

happy hour here though.

 

After leaving work, once you’ve beaten all the traffic… before getting home make sure you take

 

a little bit of time for yourself to destress, relax a little bit more, stretch some more—You know

 

it’s is a really good idea to stop somewhere close to home to hit your personal refresh button so

 

you can go home and get things going for the rest of the night.

 

You know it’s good to do all those things, but then when you’ve decompressed from all the

 

stress of the day and dealing with any dumb-dumbs at the office that you have to deal with—and

 

leave it all behind. It is more important that you do leave it all behind.

 

To a wife, appearances mean EVERYTHING!

 

At this point, you’re ready to start Secret #1: which is calling out to her to win her heart. That

 

means you are ready to call out her name as you walk through the door.

 

Now, bearing all this in mind… Secret #3 is called: Seriously Loosen Up!

 

You should still look your best, like you did when you first left for work. Go ahead, button that

 

shirt button up again. Tighten your tie up, and comb your hair, do a breath check, maybe a tic-tac

 

or a mentos breath mint is in order here.

 

So, the important thing is that she will appreciate the fact that you care about your appearance,

 

and she’ll notice your attention to looking good. In her brain she will start to equate that with

 

“romance and effort.” And, you don’t have to do a lot after that to convince her you want to be

 

with her.

 

But, I know sometimes you cannot leave it all behind at work. That’s OK too. Sometimes that

 

can’t be helped. You can use that as something to talk to your wife about. Just make sure that

 

you fix yourself up and look your best and open up to your wife about how it made you feel.

 

The thing to take home here (no pun intended) is to look as good, or better than when you did

 

when you left for work. If you do that, then you know you’ve done it right.

 

Dave:

 

So, I look good on my way out the door, and I need to look good on the way back into the house?

 

That’s what you’re trying to say.

 

James:

 

Correct.

 

Dave: Aw, that’s good, That’s good. So, so what should I say? Is it just enough to just call out

 

her name. Do I need the first thing I say be, “I love you honey”? What’s after the name is there

 

something before the name?

 

James:

 

Well, this is a nice little trick that you can do, or nice little subtle thing that you can do to pique

 

her interest.

 

“I call Secret #4: Catch the Echo. Nothing says, “I love you” better than letting her know that

 

you thought often of her when you were away at work.

 

Missing someone is like having a desire to be with them that bounces constantly around in your

 

mind and soul—kinda like an echo in a cave.

 

And, as Christian husbands, when difficulties come our way through our work day, we’ll stop

 

and pray for strength to get through it or for wisdom to handle that problem. And, at the same

 

time it is a good opportunity to think about what you’ve got waiting for you when you get home.

 

And, have that as a motivation for getting through your day with excellence and meeting up with

 

your wife at the end of the day with excellence.

 

By simply saying, “I missed you so much… I couldn’t stop thinking about you.” You are

 

showing her that you have been with her all day long… in your mind that is.”

 

And, wives really care, and are really taken in their heart when you tell them you have been

 

missing them all day long. Mine sure did… And I suspect all the wives of those listening to this

 

will too!

 

Dave:

 

Tell me a little bit more about this. Tell me a little bit more about how I can make sure that she

 

knows I care about her even when I am heads down at work in a big project. You know working

 

lots of hours and kinda buried during the day without a lot of availability. Tell me what I can do

 

when I get home to let her know that I care about her.

 

Start here: rewrite:

 

James

 

Good, well I call this, Secret #5: Actively listen to her. So, you have to make this take hold,

 

You have to make everything that I am telling you to say to her complete by making sure you

 

tie in active listening. Each time I stepped through the door doing Secrets 1 through 4 I made

 

sure she knew that she was my #1 focus at the moment so she could come to expect my love and

 

attention.

 

So, say to her,

 

“I missed you so much. I love you, and hey, I can’t wait to LISTEN to how you have been

 

feeling today.”

 

Here is a little bit of subtlety to be aware of. You should use the word LISTEN, not hear. There

 

is a difference between Listening and hearing. This is especially true when it comes to your wife.

 

Even the words Listen sounds more caring than the word hear. And, I’m not trying to say them

 

differently.

 

Because… Listening to her means you care about and validate what she has gone through in her

 

day, and that you actively care enough to listen without interruption.

 

Speaking of caring enough… as you listen to the rest of this CD, you will have all 7 secrets to

 

front door lovin`. However, I decided that this small amount of information in this CD is not

 

enough to get you from going crazy wanting to be intimate with her, to never being turned down

 

without a real good reason again.

 

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amazing results—just like I did.

 

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material will make that transformation possible, granted you apply yourself to each step in my 7

 

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I want you to be fully equipped because the needs of your wife should not be ignored and there

 

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intimacy—even beyond what we can cover in this CD, but this is a good start.

 

But for now, let’s get back to your next question, shall we?

 

Dave,

 

Great! Well, I look forward to hearing more about the full course: 7 Secrets to Front Door Lovin`

 

as we wrap this up.

 

Let me ask you another question James. We’re talking about listening right? Does a husband just

 

sit down and listen? Or, should he do something as his wife talks? What’s important with the

 

body language, with the hand movements? With the eyes? Everything else.

 

James:

 

OK. Well, “I call Secret #6: Build Plato’s Cave.

 

This is when I got to change the whole environment at the front door and make it work like

 

gangbusters throughout the rest of the house. I wanted to transform my house from our home to

 

our love retreat.

 

When you are already in the house and you have given her a nice hug, and you have told her you

 

missed her. She is going to have things that she wants to share with you.

 

Prove to her that you care by listening to your wife share her heart with you, (uhh, that is what

 

women do when they know you love them, miss them and are validating them through listening)

 

—The best way that you can best validate their feelings is not to get into a long conversation.

 

Instead, listen and build an environment that will make intimacy easier and go much smoother.

 

Go ahead, shut off all distractions. Shut off all media that could be a distraction and actively

 

listen to her. Make the environment mysterious and listen to her as if she is revealing a deep

 

mystery.

 

Plato’s cave was a story about a mystery in a cave and the people that are in the care are a

 

captive audience. They are so intrigued and curious about the mystery going on in this cave with

 

flickering lights and shadows they really don’t care what is going on in the outside world.

 

We have so much internet, social media, T.V. news and other media bombarding us and

 

available at our fingertips. If you are going to build Plato’s Cave—you are going to want to shut

 

all that out.

 

Pay attention to the fact that there are a lot of flickering lights, shadows and mysterious people in

 

this story. Because there is mystery in all that… Create that atmosphere. And, for you as a loving

 

Christian husband, what better mystery is there than your wife—and she will feel loved if you

 

are willing to focus on her even uhm… when she is still a mystery to you.”

 

In fact she wants some mystery in the relationship. She wants to feel like she still carries around

 

a mystique that fascinates you.

 

The best thing that you can do right now is make her feel like she is still mysterious to you.

 

Because that is the key to unlocking her hidden passions. She needs to feel like her mind and

 

body are the most mysterious things in your life. She will take great pleasure in helping you

 

unlock those mysteries.

 

No woman wants to feel used. That comes from feeling un-pursued and taken for granted,

 

especially when you want intimacy with her.

 

Dave,

 

Well, I know I am still a mystery to her and she is still a mystery to me. So, I agree with that

 

1,000 %.

 

I have one more question as we wrap things up.

 

Tell me about this X-Factor. I’ve heard you talk before about Feeling This “X-Factor.” What else

 

should a best-of-the-best husband do as he listens to her? Tell me a little bit here about your idea

 

of the X-Factor.

 

James,

 

Feeling the X-Factor is the 7

 

Each night needs to mean something. Make yours extraordinary and romantic!

 

An intimacy X-Factor is a little extra something that makes intimacy amazing and super

 

impactful. This is on top of everything that you do when you are making front door intimacy

 

happen at home each night…

 

Often it is the key ingredient to any success.

 

And, the success you want is deep connection with, and intimacy with your wife.

 

And, it’s really two extra things that go well together as you listen to her… while you are having

 

a loving conversation with her.

 

Keep excellent eye contact as you actively listen to her. This is powerful! Mostly because

 

she will feel a connection between the two of you—You will soon discover just how much

 

the eyes really are the window to her soul. Also, because most unimportant communication

 

occurs without eye contact—you will instantly be seen in her eyes as a part of a high quality

 

relationship.

 

Next, do little things to touch her… “gently” as she shares her heart with you. Gently touch her

 

shoulder. Slowly glide your fingers up and down her arm. Touch her hair if she likes that. And,

 

initiate any sensual or therapeutic message. This is touch for her that has increased purpose and it

 

builds intimacy with her.

 

Those things drive women crazy in the best way imaginable.

 

OK. All of these secrets, when done consistently, will open up her mind, body, and emotions to

 

you for the sake of shared romance and intimacy in your marriage. And, it all gets started the

 

instant you set your foot through the front door each night after work!

 

OK.

 

Sometimes it seems that the one resource that God has established for a Christian man to seek

 

sexual fulfillment is the hardest to understand, and the hardest to succeed in. Of course I am

 

talking about the task of successfully cultivating passion and intimacy with your Christian wife.

 

She’s the one, and the only and enjoyable outlet for your sexual needs that God has mandated for

 

you.

 

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and final Secret here. Each night you need to go the extra mile.

 

I am sure that this is going to be transformative for any willing Christian husband, because as

 

a Christian husband myself—I know that we have a set of instructions found in the Bible that

 

acts as a set standard of conduct, or a benchmark to follow in the way we treat our wives. That is

 

the bedrock foundation I use for all of my advice and I know that it will resonate with other like

 

minded Christian men.

 

In particular, I point to Ephesians 5:25 that tells us to “Love our wife as Christ loved the church

 

and gave himself for her. I also point to 1 Peter 3:7 which tells us to “consider the needs of our

 

wife”

 

But, I realize that the Christian husband still needs wise counsel on how to go about applying

 

those verses to his marriage. Non-Christian husbands have it in their power to love their wives,

 

but the Christian husband has the biblical mandate to do it.

 

So, you out there, the Christian husband need help understanding the way God made your wife.

 

And, I offer unique and creative ways to mix it up for her and cause her to notice you, run to

 

meet you and wrap her arms around you with a ton of respect the second you step foot through

 

the front door every night after work.

 

You, the Christian husband need practical techniques to follow in order to make that happen.

 

I aim to radically touch your God given soul, because God made respect the most important

 

thing for you to receive in all of your relationships… in your marriage intimacy is so much a part

 

of respect and just the way things were meant to be.

 

The same is true for any Non-Christian husband. But, it is with the understanding that because

 

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