Getting Home from Work Everyday is a 24th Reunion with Your Wife. . . 24 hours that is! A lonely wife will feel trapped, unable to breath, and anxious for relief from loneliness in any assortment of desperate pleas for attention from her tired husband, too weary from the rigors of the workday.
A lonely wife will seek outlets other than you. . . if desperate enough!
A lonely wife will seek relief through the attention of her husband and when that is in short supply she will turn to her friends or might get swept into an emotional affair, or worse. It is important that you connect with her the second you are home. You most likely are not the jerk type husband typified by Jake LaMotta. The boxer brilliantly played by Robert DeNiro in Martin Scorsese’s masterpiece, “Raging Bull.”
But, you never know when that is how she is feeling inside.
That’s why the first few minutes of reunion with your wife are make it or break-it! One day of neglect equates to 1 night of sleeping on the couch for those who are novices at making their wives resent them. The pros wake up one night with boiling hot oatmeal poured over them as they sleep! Google it!
The second you walk through the front door after work it is time to slap your cheeks–jump into a tub filled with ice–whatever it takes to be “all there.”
You are her husband. At all times she needs you to rise to every occasion to engage with her, connect with her, and be ready to handle ANYTHING!
Remember this first and foremost!
- “The soul of the sluggard craves and gets nothing, while the soul of the diligent is richly supplied.” (Proverbs 13:4). This is the key to stopping rejection, lack of respect, and tension from your wife being directed right at you from her feelings of loneliness. Diligently seek to be with, listen to, and understand your wife. It pays amazing dividends that go on, and on, and on. . .
Deep down inside her, she wants you to be the leader. DeNiro played a brother, caring friend, and natural leader as Michael Vronsky in the equally epic ”The Deer Hunter” movie. She needs to feel warm, safe, and loved even when life is at its hardest. If you have seen “The Deer Hunter”, then you know how supportive leadership carries the day, when skies are darkest in life.
- The True, Tender, and Visionary Leader uses wisely all that God Supplies– “according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus” (Philipians 4:19). I am driving the point home about God’s provision, because as a husband, you want to provide. God provided you with his daughter, so to speak, and will richly reward both you and your family for all that you do to love and care for her. This goes with all the things that God has supplied you, and it will take off some of the pressure you feel to be a provider.
- Ask it will be given you (Matthew 7:7). This 3rd tip is the kicker. You are not the expert on how to make your wife happy. No. She is! Ask her openly, honestly with all humility the ways she needs you to love her. Repeat step 1.
This is how you transform loneliness into oneness. This is how you turn boredom into passion. Don’t agree? Give me a piece of your mind–Or just say “Right On, James” (or something along those lines) in the comments section below. Thanks!