The hardest Affair to deal with is the Emotional Affair
You are here because you are hurting or you are fed up or both because you feel that your spouse is having an emotional affair with someone or something besides you. Emotions are complicated and hard to understand things.
You cannot reach into the heart and mind of your spouse and verify how exclusively dedicated they are to you with their heart. You cannot reach into their fantasy life and catch them in the act of having an emotional affair unless they have started a physical affair with a member of the opposite sex.
You are feelings of hurt and sadness probably over-rule the sense of betrayal you might feel, because in the case of no physical contact there is nothing objective to pin on the cheating spouse.
However, jealousy may be the highest felt emotion you might feel, because all of the work you put in to your relationship is still there, while the cheating spouse is giving someone else all of the emotional attention and caring that you rightly deserve and need!
These kind of affairs do not happen in a Vacuum
… Or Maybe they do
The first sign of this kind of behavior is also a sign that there are serious problems in your relationship and most likely both of you have contributed to the emotional dissipation of the marriage. Affairs of this nature do not happen in a vacuum. It is sad to say that many factors are to blame.
Do not beat yourself up about this correlation in un-fulfilling marriages and the possibility of your spouse seeking emotional fulfillment elsewhere. Do something about it. Consider why your relationship drifted apart, try to focus on what part you had in the “Emotional Vacuum” in your marriage and resolve to change those feeling and behaviors toward your spouse.
Confrontation to Fix the Cause
Confront your cheating spouse with your suspicions, but unless you have proof, only work to reconcile the emotional distance between you and try to build trust and honesty so that if doing so works they will confess to their weakness of seeking emotional fulfillment elsewhere.
There is Hope to Restore the Emotional Health of the Marriage
If caught early enough, this is a good sign that your spouse is struggling with their needs not being met and are grappling with the temptation to seek it elsewhere. In fact overwhelmingly, needs not being met in marriage is at epidemic proportions with the amount of infidelity in marriage being reported.
To have a healthy marriage the needs of your spouse over your own is the most important single principal to practice.
Do not hesitate. In this stage you may even prevent the affair. Don’t accuse him or her; just take it as a sign that NOW is the time to get things right with them. It may be too late but this is good sign something is wrong that can be fixed. You can turn to a resource made for those who have discovered that their spouse is cheating and want to do something about it to save the marriage.
It is step by step guide by Dr. Frank Gunzbur, a 31 year affair support expert marriage counselor, that will take you gently by the hand and help you through the devastation of an affair and help you put the pieces back together without divorce, learn more through the link: Click here to Discover the help you need to Restore the marriage