You are facing quite a shattering situation, right now! That person that you have invested your heart, time, and effort into is now gone! Something happened to the feelings of trust, well-being, and commitment the two of you shared.
If you relax, start giving him or her the space they need, and work on becoming a better you, then…
That happier, healthier and more understanding person you become may attract them to you again. With that said, this is the first in a series of steps on how to make him want you back, or vice verse. Make him or her trust you again enough to give the relationship a 2nd try. What could it hurt to try?
Step 1: Make Every Effort to Understand Your Ex
Relationship dysfunction and failure is due to the fact that most couples do not share the feeling of being understood by one another. It get’s in the way of making up.
This is the time for resolving to understand your ex at all costs!
What makes them tick?
What were those things that impacted them the most growing up — good and bad.
Also, it is critical to the success of your efforts to always first understand the other person’s point of view!
This step is to show that you understand his or her point of view by using what is called a “strip phrase”, often used by law enforcement as a tool for clarification, it goes like this,
“Let me see if I understand what you are saying?”
Then go on to paraphrase what you feel is his or her position on the matter. That is a sure fire way to get the attention of your ex and to ensure that he or she listens to you… and then opens up to either correct you or agree wholeheartedly with you!
Voila’, You have created report with your ex.
Make sure that you continue this method until it is obvious that your ex feels understood. In most cases, this motivates your ex to return the gesture so that he or she can then understand your position.
The next installment just got off the presses! Click her for your 2nd Step for rebuilding love, while you win your ex back.
And, leave a comment, and let me know if you think I’m crazy for saying this is the 1st step after a time apart. Or, let me know if I’m spot on! Thanks!